Coping with bereavement for better mental wellness

Grieving takes place after any sort of loss but most powerfully, after the death of someone we love. It is not just one feeling, but a whole succession of intense emotions which takes a while to overcome. It is most commonly experienced after the death of friends or family. In the few hours or day following the death of a close relative or friend, most people feel simply stunned, as though they cannot believe it has actually happened.

Even though children may not understand the meaning of death until they are three or four years old, they feel the loss of close family members in much the same way as adults. It is clear that even from infancy, children grieve and feel great distress. Once children accept the death of family members, they are likely to display their feelings of grief and loss.

Friends and family can help by spending time with the person who is coping with bereavement. It is not so many words of comfort that are needed but more the willingness to be with them during the time of their pain and distress. A sympathetic arm around the shoulder will express care and support when words are not enough.

Occasional sleepless nights may go on for so long as to become a serious problem. The doctor may then prescribe a few days’ supply of sleeping tablets.

If the bereavement and depression continue to deepen, affecting appetite, energy and sleep, antidepressants may be necessary. These are not habit-forming drugs. If depression still does not improve or if it develops into unresolved grief, then it is necessary to see a psychiatrist for help.