Steps for coping with changing friendships

Allow yourself and those around you some time to get used to all the changes that are happening. Most big changes tend to get us thinking and feeling a lot. It’s totally normal, and actually very positive, to reflect on different stages of your life. You might find yourself thinking about the impact a friendship has had on you, which can raise some big questions. This could be a good time to focus on you and to think about what you need now.

To help get a fresh take on what’s happening, try:

1. Reminding yourself that a changing friendship doesn’t mean you’re a failure or a bad person – it’s a hard, but normal, part of life

2. Reflecting on other past friendships that changed but led to your making new friends

3. Reconnecting with friends you haven’t caught up with recently

Whenever you go through some big feels, it’s a good idea to talk with someone. Keeping it all locked inside can make you feel like you’re carrying around the weight of the world. Whether you spill it to your journal or a mate, know that getting stuff off your chest will ease that pressure. It could be a good time to reconnect with an old friend or a different friendship circle you’re part of.

We’ll be the first to say that this step isn’t always the easiest one. Just the thought of having to make new friends can make you want to vom. Even though it’s hard to push past the initial awkwardness of meeting new people, it’s possible, and it’s definitely worth doing.

Life is full of opportunities to meet new people. Taking up different jobs, hobbies and study usually gives you the chance to make new friends.