What consent does - and doesn’t - look like

What consent looks like

Consent means communication every step of the way. Don’t just assume your partner is comfortable with actions. It requires a clear and enthusiastic yes - meaning if someone seems unsure, stays silent, doesn’t respond, or says ‘maybe,' they aren’t saying yes.
Here are some ways to check before going any further:
1. Are you comfortable?
2. Is this okay?
3. Do you want to slow down?
4. Do you want to go any further?

What consent does not look like

Behaviour like dressing a certain way, flirting, or accepting a ride, gift, or drink is not a form of consent. Neither is saying yes (or not saying no) while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or doing so because you feel pressured or too afraid not to.

Red flags


Pressuring or guilting you into doing things you may not want to


Suggesting that you ‘owe' them something (material items, sexual acts etc.)


Reacting negatively with sadness, anger, or resentment if you don’t consent to something


Ignoring your indications (verbal and non-verbal) that show you don’t consent

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